As my horrible day progressed I have come to realize a few things:
- People are selfish
- My Aunt is one of the few women who actually does love me unconditionally
- Apparently people think I complain too much
- No matter how much they beckon you, staples are not for eating
Now I know what you’re thinking and I know I will not explain….OK OK stop brow beating me…I’ll explain. 8)
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I am no martyr…far from it actually. But if someone is in need and I have any ability to give, I will. It doesn’t matter what the situation, who the person is, or even if I can’t logically afford to give…I will… freely and without a further thought, unless it’s my time you want/need. When I give my time, you better really need it and not waste it. Money can be replaced, but time cannot. I have seen people almost throw money away rather than give it to a person in need, this is insane to me. But this is not my point here. My point is that since I never ask anyone until I am beyond a simple need, when I do ask….it amazes me when people can’t be there for me. 😡
{case in point} Today– I needed someone just to be there…listen to me. There was no one, but when “she” called, I tried to explain to her why I was upset. Of course she was as obtuse as one can be and still have a pulse, so she didn’t understand. She asked me to come over and I soul screamed no, but somehow that translated into “OK”, over the blasted phone line. Well we all know how it went down. She whined, I ignored her. I tried to sleep, she kept talking. Then I did to her what she does to me. Every question she asked I said whatever she wanted to hear, then…. (that’s right…I did it) I blamed it all on the alcohol. I recanted all statements I made. I apologized for any misunderstanding that may have resulted. I reaffirmed that we are only friends and nothing more. HAHAHAHAHA! Aren’t you proud…for once I stood by my word! Of course despite all my apologizing, she broke down and left work crying. Whatever, I cry all the freaking time and she has never so much as sincerely apologized to me for anything. She knew I was upset and all she could see was a way to manipulate me into giving in to her insanity…well poo on her. It did not happen. 😈
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I have always loved women. I used to tell people there is no such thing as an ugly woman. She may not be appealing to you, but to someone she is a GODDESS. 🙂 I preached it and I believed it. Well life stole my rose-colored glasses and I learned women can be as ugly as all the Seven Deadly Sins. I used to applaud women who had the ability to manipulate a man, a situation, hell even a phrase and own it. But no longer. Now I am jaded and women with that particular skill set are just perfumed grifters, only looking for the next big score. Except for a few, one of whom is one of my Aunts. 😉
{case in point} Recently one of my Aunts’ house was broken into and a lot of things stolen. Now she has always been my favorite Aunt. She used to keep me back when I still an only child and we would listen to all the Carol King, Joni Mitchell, Hendrix, Joan Baez and songs (back when they were new), she was a peaceful militant. You know giant Afro with the “Fist” pick stuck in the back. She would talk to the little 4 year old me like I was an adult. We would go all sorts of place together and she let me be me…dressed anyway I wanted. I loved her. Went grew apart, she moved out west…I grew up. Well she came back and as these things go, I still loved her but now we were different. She had married a few times and now had a son. She always seem to carry a sadness I never understood, but I wanted to fix. Oddly I think she always thought the same about me. Well as I was saying, her house was broken into and apparently it was the last straw in a list of otherwise deplorable situations that had recently befallen her. We had emailing back and forth about this when I off handedly mentioned my singledom. She was unaware of this. I gave her the gist of my situation and do you know what she said? She of course told me to stop crying, but she was genuinely upset that after all these time I am still upset by the whole situation. Then get this… She said she will try to help me out financially. What? Your house was destroyed by some cowardly fool without a conscience and you are trying to help me? When I read this response from her, I could not stop crying….hard since I was (like now) at work. This is the same Aunt who gave me money to have Lasik done, because she loved it so much and she knew I had always hated my glasses. The same Aunt who gave me money to help pay back taxes I owed last year. She is also the only family anywhere who gave me a house warming present when I bough my first & only house. I have never asked her for anything. Yeah, so I remember her birthday every year and sometimes I send her flowers just because…she still is so awesome to me, there are no words to describe it. 😳
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I try to keep to myself. I can’t be bothered with all the socializing people do at work….too much talking. Jeez! Don’t you people ever shut up? Well of course this wins me no popularity points with the Cube Citizens of Workerbeesville, let me just say. Sometimes I try to put up a brave front, I try not to have my life show on my face. Sometimes, however, I just don’t give a flying Fig Newton. When people ask, what’s wrong, I try to smile and say nothing. For some, this works. For others….well they know not to ask.
{case in point} Today– I had not slept much (see above, in case you forgot 😕 ) and with the removal of my last outlet (TV) I was just fed-up. Someone asked my “ex” to fix whatever is wrong with me. She said she didn’t know what was wrong. Then she turned to me, “what’s wrong, the usual?” The usual? Have my problems,issues, and pain become so common place that they are now viewed as “the usual”? :o. Well these just beats all. It made me realize that I talk too much and I’m not putting on the front I should. So from now on when someone ask, “what’s wrong?” I’m going to say, “Why thank you for asking, but it is the most glorious of given days. How could anything be wrong?” Oh never mind, that’s just too much to say…I’m sticking with “nothing”, until they leave me alone. 😐
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Pica is one of my most favorite Psychological disorders. It is the compulsion to eat non edible objects. People will eat anything; utensils, hair, matches, needles, scissors, glass…anything. They can’t seem to stop themselves. When I was little I loved to eat paper. Specially not book paper. I’m still not sure why but thankfully I grew out of it. Good thing too since I also swallowed a lot of gum if you catch what I’m saying here. 😯 But this is not my point here. My point is Staples are a menace.
{case in point} While I have never eaten one nor placed one anywhere near my mouth, I do have a deep inner ear pain. So I’m thinking either I have been unconsciously eating staples as a snack or I just have another undiagnosed ear infection. Well there’s no money to go to the doctor, so I’m blaming the staples…that’s my story and I’m sticking to it. 😛